Time for today’s keyword search: Frenchmen want sex early
So do they or don’t they? Yes, they do. They will try to have sex the first time you see each other. When in Rome… question is do you or don’t you? A French guy explained to me last night that French women often just roll with this and have sex. This does not bode well for anglo-saxons.
To my understanding, Frenchmen believe that having sex is just a continuation of a nice evening out. It’s a natural progression, a desire that should be acted on. Why? Because they think why not. It doesn’t have to mean he’s into you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to date you, it doesn’t even mean that he will call you. It just means that he’s horny and wants to have sex.
As an anglo-saxon, trying to explain the concept of waiting to a Frenchman is challenging. Because they don’t understand where you’re coming from. They believe in expressing themselves. And if you want to reign all that in until you’re a few more dates in, because you want to get to know each other more, or because you want to see where things are going first, well he might not get it. He might say something like:
You don’t want me
I thought you liked me
I thought something was happening between us
What this does is make you feel guilty. Let’s say he’s taken you out for a lovely meal, you’ve taken a stroll along the Seine together, he’s kissed you, you really like him. And then next thing you know it, he’s pushing for sex. You might feel like you should, have sex that is. But that would mean he’s pressuring you before you’re ready. And it could almost feel like what I call “pity fucking”. Don’t go there.
So why do Frenchmen want to have sex so early? I think part of it is because they like their micro dates. They like to pack marathon nights out with lots of micro date activities. So you almost feel like you’ve been out 5 times before the end of the night. And by the 5th micro date, he’s ready to have sex. And they’re horny buggers.
Now, there’s free will in all this. You can decide if you want to or not. If it’s a no, it doesn’t mean you want to wait an eternity. And if he doesn’t respect that, then so be it. French or not, your Frenchman is a human being. If he doesn’t hear you, then you need to bail.