Time for today’s keyword search: How to tell a Frenchman no to sex
Great question whoever this came from!
Let’s get straight to it. A Frenchman is likely to push for sex as soon as you kiss. To a Frenchman, this is completely normal. So first thing is to keep this in mind. You will think you’re just going in for a first kiss, then things will quickly turn hot and heavy and sex won’t be very far from your Frenchman’s mind.
So what do you do?
a) You can say no and stick to your guns. Eg, explain you’d like to wait a little, get to know each other. But you’ll need to be firm. Especially if you’re in his/your apartment.
b) Make sure you don’t go to his/your apartment until you’re ready for sex.
The biggest problem to a Frenchman, is that ‘no’ means ‘maybe, so why don’t you convince me’. Frenchmen take a ‘no’ as a challenge to change your mind. They’ll kiss you some more, make you swoon, whisper in your ear. You might find yourself falling under his spell and thinking, isn’t this lovely. Then drawing back and saying no. Only to have him taking another shot at it, over and over.
So basically, if you don’t want to have sex, you’ll have to say so, stick to your guns. By all means, be an outrageous flirt, kiss him, do whatever you like with him. But draw the line, and stick to it.
If he doesn’t get it, then another one bites the dust.