This is a sticky point. In the past, I’ve talked about this before but let’s go through it again because it’s a question that my readers often bring up in my analytics.
If a Frenchman kisses you… you could find yourself in an immediate exclusive relationship. Yes, because once he’s kissed you, he doesn’t want you kissing anyone else. He will be shooting off text messages to you non-stop, asking you out last-minute, taking you to parties, the works. But he’ll have trouble calling you his girlfriend and he won’t want to actually have the exclusive talk with you.
On the other hand, a Frenchman may think you’re in an immediate exclusive relationship… when you are actually dating other people. Yes, because quite simply you just started seeing each other, and, well, you’re also seeing a couple of other guys. Until you have the exclusive talk you’re not not willing to commit to anyone of them. Pretty normal stuff for an anglo-saxon.
Of course, sex can change things. Because you probably don’t want to have sex with more than one guy. Which is why, if you are dating several guys, you might want to hold off on the sex until you know which guy you’re really into. Your Frenchman doesn’t need to know you’re seeing other guys. Just keep it to yourself and give yourself options. Until you decide where your heart lies.
This strategy puts you in control. Which is kind of a nice place to be.
Of course, this is just my way of doing things. The rest is up to you.