I went on a date last night with a French guy from an online dating site. Trying to be more open-minded, I met up with him because he really wanted to.
The second I saw him I was not attracted to him whatsoever. But I wanted to make the best of it so we grabbed some dinner to go and went for a walk by the Seine. We sat by the water and chatted but nothing reeled me in. It was pleasant enough but nothing more.
As he seemed pretty keen, I decided to be upfront and ask if we could be friends maybe, only kind of half meaning it. To which he asked me if I was into having fuck buddies. Errr. Then a monologue ensued in which he explained how fuck buddies were great while we were still looking for someone to have a relationship with. That why not have sex and enjoy it. If it wasn’t hurting anyone. He also elaborated on how he didn’t want to be in a relationship before he got where he wanted to be in his life, so he really was only looking for fuck buddy options right now. Nice.
I politely came back with the fact that I was offering friendship and friendship only, which I wasn’t really anymore. To which he responded with, But will you come over to my house for dinner sometime and hang out. I patiently explained that maybe I would in the future if we became friends. For good measure I quipped, Maybe I’ll bring my boyfriend if I have one by then! To which he responded with, Well no, I’d rather not.
He pushed a bit further, and I remained polite. But when he wrote to me this morning asking if I was ready for the adventures he had in store for me next, I wrote back keeping it simple, saying I’d had a think and wasn’t really looking for more friends at this time in my life.
Thankfully he got the message.
Amendment: No, he didn’t get the message. 30 minutes after saying he totally understood, he decided to start hounding me with a bullshit email about how he now realized the value of true friendship built over time and then more with his favourite youtube videos (not porn thankfully). I deleted my email account.
Tip for online daters hoping to date Frenchmen: create an email account for this specific reason so you can delete it if you have to. Also do NOT give out your cell phone number. And if you have to call to make plans, block your number. If a Frenchman decides he’s into you, be it as a potential fuck buddy or girlfriend, he will contact you constantly and will take a ‘no’ from you as encouragement to convince you otherwise.
Be careful my friends!