Time for today’s keyword search: Why don’t Frenchmen make dates?
Thanks to whoever asked this great question!
Why don’t Frenchmen make dates? Well, because dates are quite simply not part of their culture. There isn’t even a term in the French language for “date” believe it or not. Which says a lot. Actually, which says everything.
So, you might ask yourself, what’s a girl to do? How are you supposed to see your Frenchman if he doesn’t make a date with you?
What not to do: Ask him out on a date. You might think that taking control and just making a date yourself will solve all your problems. But this is taking away your Frenchman’s power. This is taking away the chase. You’re just handing it over on a platter. And he’ll think you’re being aggressive and pull away. So don’t go there.
What usually happens: Instead of official dates organized ahead of time, your Frenchman will text you last minute. For example, “Hey! I’m around the corner from your place with a few friends. Do you want to join me for a drink :)” Now if you are wearing your pjs and you haven’t washed your hair in 3 days, this spontaneous suggestion might pose a problem. However, if you live in France then for the most part you are pretty much always naturally sexy so let’s just assume you are in a position to respond: “I’ll be there in 20 minutes :)” Great, gold star for you.
What could also happen: You might also find yourself going to parties with your Frenchman and hanging out with his friends quite a lot. Frenchmen like to do this. However, he won’t introduce you as his girlfriend. But do not panic, Frenchmen have difficulty spitting the word “girlfriend” out until he’s sure of where things are going. Instead be charming, joke around with his friends, fit in nicely and have fun. Another gold star for you.
Basically, you need to be cool, go with the flow, be ready to go out last minute, and hang with his friends.
Believe me, if you try and explain to a French guy how you would prefer that he call you ahead of time and organize something concrete because that’s your dating culture…….. he will disappear. As in you probably won’t hear from him again.
So what’s it gonna be?