If you remember, yesterday I promised I would give you a few pointers as to how to get a horny Frenchman to hold off on sex until you’re safe in the knowledge that he’s your boyfriend.
Again, this is for all those who are fragile about a man calling after sex. If you don’t give two hoots if the guy calls you back after sex, this isn’t for you.
So, back to the subject of the post: How to keep a Frenchman interested without putting out, even if he’s a horny bastard.
First of all, let’s talk about the time frame. Of course, the time it takes for your Frenchman to become your boyfriend may vary. It may take three weeks, it may take six weeks, it may take a couple of months. Obviously, after three months, you might want to shop around if you’re still not sure if he’s your boyfriend. But in any case, I’m pretty sure your Frenchman will have done a runner if you haven’t put out within three months. But you see, you’ve taken your power back – because if you don’t sleep with a guy and he disappears, you’re less emotionally invested. That’s how I feel, anyway.
Second of all, let’s talk about building anticipation. Because even though you’re not putting out, you’re still giving him a taste of what’s to come. So let’s base ourselves on six weeks. You’re gonna need to pace yourself. Because if you go too fast, there’ll be nothing left to do but to have sex. And if you’re only on week #2, Houston we have a problem. So yes, pace yourself.
Sure, but how? Obviously, you want to wow him with a knock ’em dead first kiss. Then slowly edge forward, anticipation being key. Beyond your wit, charm and captivating beauty, you should be giving him an incentive to want to see you again. Basically, in his head, he needs to know that he’ll be having sex with you one day to stick around. As for when that is, that’s up to you to decide. He just needs to see things moving forward in that direction.
So let’s work through your dates here. Let’s say two dates a week for six weeks. That’s 12 dates. How about we map them out, just as a rough example.
Date #1 – Tame. Just do the bise.
Date #2 – Knock ’em dead first kiss. Not over 15 seconds. Do NOT take him upstairs and have sex.
Date #3 – Passionate goodnight kiss at the bottom of your building. Not over 2 minutes. Do NOT take him upstairs and have sex.
Date #4 – Passionate goodnight kiss at the bottom of your building. As long as you want, but not in excess of 10 minutes. Exploration above belt over clothes allowed. Do NOT let it get out of control. Do NOT take him upstairs and have sex.
Date #5 – Holding hands. Kiss in movie. Passionate goodnight kiss. Not over 5 minutes. Exploration above belt under clothes allowed, in his car for example if has one. Do NOT take him upstairs and have sex.
Date #6 – Same as #5 but extend to 20 minutes, below the belt over clothes allowed. Say you should go, but with a glint in your eye that says you kinda don’t want to. Do NOT take him upstairs and have sex.
Date #7 – How about a little exhibitionism? Same as #5 but at the bottom of your building, against the door. Make the exploration more immediate, more urgent. You know what to do girls. Not over 5 minutes.
Date #8 – Same as #7 but extend to 20 minutes.
Date #9 – If you’re out for dinner, look at his lips, lick your lips, lean across the table and kiss him passionately. You know what to do girls. Even tell him you’re having difficulty concentrating on what he’s saying because you can’t stop thinking about the end of the last date. Repeat #8 but extend to 30 minutes.
Date #10 – Same as #9 but say you’re having difficulty concentrating on what he’s saying because you want to rip his clothes off. Leave dinner early, make out openly in the street. He will desperately want to come back to your place. Tell him there’s nothing you want more but you’ve got an early meeting the next day. Next time baby.
Date #11 – Group date. Make it happen. Could be last-minute, oh I totally forgot I said I’d meet a few friends for drinks, do you mind? If he rolls with it he’s cool, and you’ll get the golden seal of approval from a few friends. Make sure they’re not all girls and that they don’t grill him. A couple thrown in can’t hurt. You’ll also get to see how he is around other people. And you can be an outrageous flirt from across the table. He can look but not touch, which will drive him wild especially after #10. You have to drop a friend off back home. But you sneak a quick passionate moment aside with him and whisper in his ear that you want him.
Date #12 – Invite him upstairs. Congrats, you can now have sex!
In my next post, we’ll talk about how to transform your horny Frenchman into your boyfriend. See you tomorrow!