Remember this post: pure insanity?
I would like to make an amendment. Trying to get a horny Frenchman to hold off on sex until you’re safe in the knowledge that he’s your boyfriend is like trying to drink water with chop sticks. Yes, impossible!
There are some serious flaws to this fine strategy I shared with you:
– It’s pretty difficult to tell if a Frenchman is your boyfriend in the anglo sense of the word. Trying to get your Frenchman to discuss the subject will have him immediately running for the hills. Avoid!
– It is pretty difficult to keep a Frenchman interested if you delay sex. He will just go get some elsewhere. Wonderful!
– Not sleeping with a Frenchman is NOT taking your power back. Because he will disappear!
– Building anticipation based on 6 weeks is completely unrealistic with a Frenchman!
– Pacing yourself with a Frenchman is impossible. Because as soon as he kisses you he will be expecting sex if not right away, pretty quickly. So much for my 12-date program before sex!
So what does this mean? Is it possible to not put out with a Frenchman until you’re a few dates in? Of course it is. You have your free will, so you can do as you please. But as to whether your Frenchman will like it and put up with it is a different story. Once he kisses you, you’re out of time. Which means putting out or risking losing your Frenchman.
So what’s it going to be? Well, I guess it depends on how much you like your Frenchman… Do you want to risk losing him? Do you fancy the pants off him? Does he make you swoon? Does he make you laugh? Looking at the big picture might make you think, Pourquoi pas !