Thanks to whoever asked this question in my analytics! It’s perfect timing because my last post was all about cheating. Because cheating is one of those things that Frenchmen are known for. Let me give you the perfect example:
A while back a guy from work was flirting with me like crazy. It was a daily thing we had. Flirtatious banter, borderline sexual innuendo, longing looks, the full nine yards. I actually started to think, Why isn’t this dude making a move on me? Because I thought he was laying the foundations for the beginning of something. But no, the flirtatious banter, borderline sexual innuendo and longing looks continued. But nothing more. I was stumped.
Then one day he said something that made me realize what the hell he was up to. He was going to see his dentist over lunch for a check up and he said, “She’s got an amazing rack. I’d like to nestle my head there like a baby.” Me being me, I raised my eyebrows so he added, “Bah oui, that’s the beauty of being a Frenchmen, you can flirt all you want, it means nothing.”
I shortly after found out he was married and had three kids. Yes, three!
His philosophy was to flirt to the max in the day and then go home and play happy families. I couldn’t help but wonder what his wife thought of his outrageous flirting. Like was she aware of it, did he do it in front of her, had he actually taken the flirting to the next level and had sex? Maybe, maybe not.
Now that I’d wisened up, he moved on to other conquests at the office. For some reason, he decided to keep me in the loop so he’d tell me things like: Now that’s a pair of legs I’d like wrapped around me. I was pretty glad when my contract finished because it was getting kind of crude. And I wasn’t the only one that was rolling her eyes.
So is flirting cheating? That’s the big question. It’s something us anglos are very sensitive to, I have to say. But Frenchmen are more latin. They have warmer dispositions, they speak with their hands, they stand closer to you when they speak, they touch your arm to get their point across. It’s a different culture. And so, flirtation is part of the package.
Obviously, there are limits. But a Frenchman will always flirt with other attractive women. Accept it. It’s a part of life if you choose to be with a Frenchman. And I’m sorry folks but if you’re dating a Frenchman, it’s because there’s something about you that’s latin too. If not, wait, it will come. And so you might find yourself being flirtatious with members of the opposite sex. Shock, horror?! No, not at all. Your Frenchmen will find you even sexier if other guys are tripping on you, trust me.
What it comes down to is trust. You don’t half trust someone. You don’t trust someone 80% of the time. You trust someone fully. Which means you don’t go through their pockets, you don’t check their browsing history, you don’t check their cellphone. If you’re doing that, sorry, but you’re kinda crazy. And if your Frenchman hasn’t given you any reason not to trust him, why are you doing any of that stuff in the first place?
So you trust him. He trusts you. It works both ways. Appreciate the female/male form, be your usual sexy, witty, fabulous self, throw in a little harmless flirting sure why not. But it stops there. Look but don’t touch. If your Frenchman starts touching, he’s cheating on you. Get it? That’s the line. Cross it and there’s no going back. And a Frenchman who thinks that crossing the line is no biggie is somewhat of a lost cause. He’ll not change his ways for you. Because he won’t think he’s doing anything wrong.
Which brings us back full circle – Frenchmen don’t think flirting is cheating. No, they don’t. And it’s not. Kissing and having sex with someone else is cheating. It’s that simple.
He does that, you kick him to the curb.