So, further to my last post, I’d like to delve deeper into this issue of cheating.
Some Frenchmen do think that flirting can be OTT. It obviously depends on one’s definition of “flirting”. As to how far you take it. For example, are you pretending you’re single when you’re not, are you leaving the party with a phone number in your pocket, are you making out in a dark corner?
So when is flirting on a woman’s part too much for a Frenchman? Basically, when you’re not thinking of your partner anymore, when you’re not looking for him in the room, when you don’t mention him in the conversation.
According to the above, I thought, Well that’s not so bad, maybe Frenchmen aren’t such big cheaters after all. But then, I heard this from a Frenchman:
The best woman to have an affair with is a married woman. Because she has a life, she has kids, she won’t ask for anything more, she won’t mind if you have to cancel last minute because she’ll have to as well sometimes. It will just be sex. Nothing more. Because she has her family life in tact. And all she wants is sex on the side.
Oh dear oh dear.
And then I heard this:
Let’s say a Frenchman has a nice family life but he’s just not happy sexually. He goes out for a drink, he meets a young woman, he goes back to her place, they have sex. He should totally keep it quiet, why tell his wife and risk losing her when it was just sex. Lots of couples stay together that way. The guy satisfies his sexual desires outside of his marriage and comes home and plays happy families with his wife and kids.
Oh dear lord.
This general acceptance of affairs appears to be widespread. I cannot fathom it personally. I would never tolerate it. I wouldn’t even discuss it. But let’s put it this way, if the sex isn’t good with your Frenchman, if for one reason or another you’re not having sex very often, he is definitely looking for it and possibly getting it elsewhere. Think about it….
Those horny buggers aren’t horny for nothing.