Now I know I said I would tell you guys how my extravaganza weekend went. But first things first, I want to reply to Nicole’s comments on my Frenchmen and work post a few posts back. Thanks Nicole for taking the take to comment.
So Nicole, I really think you should think about what being friends with this French guy is bringing to you. Because you’re hurting. Let’s look at the facts:
– He’s in a relationship with some other girl
– Said relationship happened all of a sudden when you thought you guys might be heading somewhere
– He still texts you now and then to see how you are, then you guys chat intensely
– You guys never went on a date
– Yet you were in constant contact till he got a girlfriend
– He would rather get drunk than hang out with you
This will sound brutal maybe, but you need to cut him out of your life. He has only used you and even now, he’s got you on the back burner. That’s no way to treat you. And if I may, you sound like a pretty cool chick to me. You deserve way better. It’s your choice, but personally, I would stop responding to his texts, delete him from my Facebook and open myself up to meeting a guy who adores you.
As for if Frenchmen still talk to their exes or past crushes when they have girlfriends – they do. Me too, I was kinda shocked by that. I mean, why??! But yes, they appear to be nonchalant about this and if you ask them what’s the deal, they’ll shrug and say, why not?!
And as for you thinking you’re being too nice, maybe you have been too nice to this guy, reserved him too much head space. But being nice with the next guy may pay off. It’s about finding a guy who will appreciate you, see. And if he doesn’t, so long baby!
Tip for dating Frenchmen: let them do the running, don’t text them after a date to say I had a great time, wait for him to text you/call you/email you. If you let them, some Frenchmen may well keep you on the back burner in case their current crush doesn’t pan out or in case they fancy themselves a booty call somewhere in the future – this should NOT flatter you. On the contrary, you should smirk a little and hit delete.
Okay Nicole, over to you. You can do it.