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In my last post, I got a comment from someone in need of some advice. The gist of it was that she had 5 dates with her new Frenchman in one week, they’d kissed on the 5th date, and she wasn’t sure if she could make it to 6 weeks without having sex (as prescribed by yours truly here: when to have sex theory), yet wasn’t sure if she did the deed sooner if she would come off as easy.
For what it’s worth, here’s my take: your Frenchman is being the perfect gentleman right now – he’s picking you up from home, he’s dropping you off, he kissed you only after 5 dates… Sounds good to me. So I would say just go with the flow by following his lead. Not all Frenchmen are horny dogs, you seem to have a good one! Don’t initiate, let him do the running, and all you have to do is say yes. Do you want to go see a movie? Yes. Do you want to try this new sushi place? Yes. Do you want to go to a party? Yes. If he’s a gentleman, he might want to date like this for a good while, so just sit back and let him, and enjoy!
And as for things getting more hot and heavy, let him make the first move. That’s super important. A Frenchman needs to feel like he’s running the show. In the meantime, be a damn good kisser and great company, funny, witty and all the rest. As for sex, sure I prescribed 6 weeks as a rule of thumb, but every case is individual. Sometimes, you need to fend a Frenchman off with a stick he’s so horny, in which case attempting a 6-week theory comes in handy so you have time to figure out his real intentions. See, it’s all about self-preservation – why invest yourself emotionally in a guy who just wants to get into your pants, right? But… your Frenchman is taking it slow, so no stick required. Lucky you!
As for inviting him to your place, I would avoid that. When a Frenchman enters your personal space it’s when things are becoming more intimate. It’s a green light for taking things to the bedroom if you see what I mean. And you guys aren’t there yet.
Bottom line – breathe and take it easy. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with taking things slow. On the contrary, if your Frenchman is like-minded, he’ll respect you for respecting his pace.
Let me know how things go!