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A couple of posts back I got a comment from someone in Vietnam. She met her new Frenchman at work and he asked her out. Their first date was good. She texted him that evening and he replied 2 days later. He then went to visit her a few times at work. But then whenever she texted him he took a couple of days to respond. Before he went back to France, she called him and asked him out again. He said yes. She also gave him her email and he said he’d send over some pix. But she never got an email from him since he left. He’ll be back in Vietnam next week and she wants to know if she should go on another date with him?
First of all, sorry for the delay in getting back to you. I realize this advice may be a little late, but just in case, here goes.
There are more than a few alarm bells going off in my head. YOU texted him after your first date. He takes a few days to get back to you. YOU called him and asked him out again. He never emailed you with those pix. You’re considering going on another date. In short, YOU seem to be doing all the running.
The answer is simple: stop running. Stop texting him, emailing him, calling him, asking him out. DO NOTHING. Because when you do nothing, you see how much a Frenchman, or any man, is into you. If you don’t ever hear from the guy again, you know he doesn’t care about you. Problem solved!
You see, if a guy is into you, he’ll be the one to text you, call you, ask you out again. If you’re doing all the running, you’ll never know for sure if a guy likes you! So, sit back and watch. If he texts you, text back. If he calls you, pick up the phone. If he asks you out, say yes. But……………….. if he does nothing, move on.
I know it’s tough, but this method is a surefire way to find out if he’s for real. And you know, if he’s not the one, so be it, too bad for him. Because there’s someone out there for you that will find you fabulous and that will be totally into you.
I’ve been there, trying to create a relationship with a guy that wasn’t that interested. It will never work and it just doesn’t feel good. So listen up: ladies, you can’t force a relationship by trying to make a guy be into you. If he doesn’t make an effort, drop him. End of story.