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Now, I don’t want to offend any French people reading this blog, but, erm, let’s say in my experience, Frenchmen tend to see sex as a national sport.
Obviously, there are exceptions. As a few recent followers have commented, some Frenchmen are true gentleman, treating you like the lady that you are. How lovely!
But, for the rest of us, there’s all the Frenchmen who are HORNY DOGS! That’s right, horny dogs. They have one thing on their minds, and that’s having sex with you as soon as physically possible. Why? Because that’s how Frenchmen express themselves. Because sex is as casual as say offering someone a cup of tea. Because having sex doesn’t mean they’re going to call you. I am smiling as I type, but it’s kinda true!
Now, maybe you’re at a place in your life where you’re looking for no strings attached sex. In which case, a horny dog Frenchman is your man. But let’s say you’re looking for something meaningful, then the rules change.
With any guy you’re interested in, you want to feel secure, you want to know where you stand, you want to see he’s into you. It’s only natural. You want to feel like you guys are going somewhere. Having sex on the 2nd date with a Frenchman is not going to make you feel secure. It’s just sex. Sex with any guy on a 2nd date is just sex.
And then you know what happens next. You agonize over why he’s not calling you, texting you, driving yourself nuts with asking yourself what it all means!!! Driving your friends nuts asking them what it all means!!! And then maybe you’ll convince yourself that it’s okay if you call him or text him. And when he doesn’t write or call back, you feel like crap. Because he slept with you and then disappeared.
Yeah, it hurts.
Enter self-preservation. WAIT before you sleep with a horny dog. Avoid feeling like crap by waiting before you give it up. That doesn’t mean you can’t fool around and get hot and heavy, but easy does it.
My Frenchman was a classic example of a horny dog. I think he was used to girls having sex with him on a 2nd date or so. He just couldn’t fathom why I was making him wait. I explained my theory of wanting to take the time to get to know each other and he still didn’t get it. So I had to stall him with various strategies. Lunch for example. Or not inviting him up to my place. In other words, keep him away from your bedroom.
I basically stretched it to as far as I could. Which wasn’t actually that long in my opinion, 8 dates I think. An eternity for him, not enough for me. For sure, I wanted to sleep with him before then. But I more so wanted to get to know him. Funnily enough, when we talk about it now, he respects me for waiting. None of those chicks who gave it up easily kept his attention. Making him wait in a way got him hooked.
So, when is it a good time to have sex with a Frenchman? Obviously, when and if you’re ready. If possible, try and push it back as far as you can. 7 or 8 dates being a good figure for a horny dog. Longer with a gentleman.