Thanks to The Swede and Nickie for reminding me that this blog isn’t just about bitching about Frenchmen. Hell, if I’m dating one, it can’t all be bad!
In response to Nickie’s question as to where you can meet Frenchmen, here’s the deal. Frenchmen worth going out with don’t hit on you. They’re more subtle. They like to get to know you, hang out with you, as part of a group. Enter the French circle of friends. It’s where couples are formed. You start off as friends, get to know each other, take a liking to each other, kiss, and you’re a couple!
Note: Guys who hit on you in the street might say: Salut ma belle, can I invite you for a coffee?
Don’t be fooled, this is foreplay to a “tea” at your place, if you know what I mean.
Now, what to do if you don’t have a French circle of friends… If you’re going to university, don’t cut yourself off from French people by only hanging out with expats. If you’re an au pair, join an English-French conversation class. If you’re a keen photographer, join a weekend photography class. The idea is to branch out, make more friends and become integrated into a larger network. Because the more people you meet, the more likely you are to meet your very own Frenchman.
If it’s bars you’re thinking, think again. If you’re coming onto guys in bars, you really won’t give the right impression to Frenchmen. And if you think guys will come onto you in bars, it will only be for one thing, trust me.
So the key is to say yes to every invitation. Let’s say a girl from work invites you to a housewarming party, you say yes. Let’s say your neighbour is having a Halloween party, you say yes. Let’s say a friend asks if you want to join a tennis club, you say yes. And hey, it’s not all about finding a Frenchman, it’s also about you making friends. And once you’re part of a group, you’ll have plenty of time to see if anyone takes your fancy. And if not, be patient and enjoy yourself in the meantime. New people are brought into groups all the time, groups merge and you may become part of another group too.
But what if groups aren’t your thing, then what? Hmm… how about online dating and speed dating. Any other suggestions anyone?
Next post: How to know a Frenchman likes you.