Lovely title for a new post Monday morning hey! But it’s important to mention these things. Because, well, you don’t want to catch anything nasty right.
Let’s picture how this kind of discussion might come up with your newly found Frenchman. You’re on your second date. Things are hot and heavy. He’s pushing to come upstairs with you to your apartment. He’s whispering sweet nothings in your ear. You think, what the hell, why not. Within seconds of opening your front door, you’re both taking each other’s clothes off.
You open your bedside table to pull out a condom and he looks at you kind of confused.
“Don’t you trust me?” he says.
“Trust you? It’s about protection that’s all,” you answer quite simply.
“But I don’t have anything,” he says back.
“When was the last time you got tested?” you probe, feeling the mood going downhill.
You ask again.
“I don’t remember,” he finally says. In an attempt to revive the mood, he whispers, “Oh come on, I hate condoms.”
Aha. Frenchman. Horny. Tested God knows when. Second date. Potentially bedding other women. Doesn’t like condoms. May have an STD or two. Wants to have unprotected sex. In your bed.
So what is with that???!!!
Now there can be different outcomes:
1) You can push your condom and he might try sex with it on for a whole 2 minutes and just stop, saying he can’t. He might then sulk and try and convince you. And when you continue to push your belief in condoms, he might just get up and leave. Yeah, nice knowing you too.
2) You can have a heart to heart about both of you getting tested at some point in the future. And in the meantime, you say you prefer to use condoms. He keeps on insisting, “But I don’t have anything!” even if he’s never been tested in his entire life. You’re going round in circles here.
3) He agrees to getting tested. Even if you’re only on date # 2. He’s going to the clinic tomorrow. Because he’s horny.
4) You put yourself at risk and have sex with him without a condom. DO NOT DO THIS. Really, it’s just not worth it.
So how about you, ladies. Any stories to tell?