Is a Frenchman too good to be true?

Picture this:

He texts you in the day to tell you he’s thinking of you. He calls you to make plans in the evening with you. He buys you flowers. He likes to make you laugh. You often catch him looking at you with a dreamy look in his eyes. He tells you he loves you and you feel that he really means it. He likes to surprise you with little presents. He holds your hand when you stroll through Paris. He introduces you to his friends as his girlfriend. He’s made plans for a vacation with you this summer. You’ve had a conversation about marriage and babies and he didn’t freak out and run for the hills. He’s always there to support you. He doesn’t do a runner when you’re in a mood, on the contrary, he makes you smile. He strokes your cheek and tells you he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. When you think of him, you can’t imagine your life without him.

For anyone looking for this kind of scenario with a Frenchman or any man, it is possible. It just means you need to be patient and wait for the right guy. Now, that doesn’t mean that you should sit on your sofa in your pjs and wait for him to ring the doorbell. To make it happen, you need to open doors to increase your chances. Even then, it may take a while to meet The One. “Where the hell have you been?” you might want to say to him. But instead you fall into his arms and finally breath a sigh of sheer joy that you’ve found the man that you want to build your life with.

Some may say, “Is a Frenchman too good to be true?” But I would have to say not always. The right Frenchman for you is not too good to be true. Some people bring out the best in others. And if you bring out the best in your Frenchman and he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he will continue to be that person. Which means that he will continue to make you swoon, will continue to make you smile, will continue to make plans with you, and so on and so forth. It’s as simple as that. If a Frenchman is not right for you, he will no doubt eventually do a disappearing act and will then, yes, be too good to be true. In those kinds of cases, you’ll feel like crap because he did and said all the right things to make you swoon and then… started dating someone else. Nice one.

So how do you meet the right (French)man? When you meet a man, don’t immediately label him as potentially The One. If you do that, your expectations will be way too high and you’ll probably be disappointed. Instead, let him show you how much he likes you. In other words, apply the mirroring technique. What this means is that when he texts you, you text back. When he calls you, you pick up the phone. When he asks you out, you say yes. See, by letting him initiate things in the early stages, you get to know pretty quickly how into you he is. This saves you a whole lot of time. Within, say 3 weeks, you’ll know how keen he is. And hey, if he’s not that keen, it’s time for you to move on. Easy right! If he is keen though, that still doesn’t mean he’s The One. From then on, you can initiate too but here it’s good to give things time. Does he have staying power? Is he still keen 7 months in? Is he making plans with you? And how do you feel? Only then will you start to get the picture if he’s in it for the long haul. If he is, and you are too, congrats!

Bises,

Datea x