It’s lovely when a man invites a woman out for dinner in any culture. It means he’s treating you, he wants to do something special for you because he simply wants to.
But in my experience, some Frenchmen only invite a woman out for dinner, as in pay, just once: the first time. It’s like he’s playing the role of the perfect gentleman. To make you swoon/think he’s super generous/get you into bed. After that, things change. How? You go halves from that point onwards. Yeah, that perfect gentleman didn’t last long.
Now, obviously, the guy may not have tons of cash so that’s understandable. But if you know he has a good job and he’s choosing not to invite you, then what’s up with that? Now, this post isn’t about squeezing free dinners out of your Frenchman or anything. It’s about being treated the way you want to be treated. Because despite equal sexes and all that, a woman still likes to be treated to a nice dinner out now and then.
Let’s play a few dinner dates out from date #1:
1. He invites you. You swoon.
2. You guys go halves. You wonder what happened.
3. You invite him. To equal things out and because you just want to invite your new man.
4. You guys go halves. You wonder why he’s not reciprocating for date #3.
5. You invite him again. Because you just want to invite your new man. But also because you want to see what will happen on date #6.
6. You guys go halves. WTF?
7. You invite him because it feels odd to keep going halves. He says, “You’ve got to start letting me pay for my own dinner!” Yeah, ha ha.
8. You guys go halves. Confirmation: he’s a stingy bastard.
Not all guys do this of course. Some guys insist on paying all the time, half the time or at least some of the time. But others are pretty stingy. They will think Score! when you invite them out for dinner but then won’t return the favour. When I brought the subject up with one of my French exes before, he came out with this little speech:
Him: “I wasn’t brought up to ask to be invited. I don’t have a lot of money right now.”
Me: “Maybe you should have thought about that before you bought a 2000 euro camera.”
Him: “It’s my money. I chose to spend my money on that camera. Just as I’m choosing to not invite you.”
We were talking about 11 euros btw. I was stunned.
Him: “I don’t have to invite you. Even if it’s just 11 euros, it’s the principle.”
If you’re having these kinds of conversations with your man, then be warned.