It’s important to remember that in many cases a Frenchman will try and have sex as soon as possible. What this means is that he may not be in a relationship with the girl, he may not even be dating her. In fact, he’s probably just hung out with her a few times. Or worse, he may have just met her.
Now, this may make a few readers go WTF? As it may make a few readers go, Sure, why not just go with the flow!
But for everyone in between, let me explain. A Frenchman likes to express himself physically. So if he’s had a nice evening with a girl and has kissed her, in his mind things should naturally progress to the bedroom and sex. I’ve said this before but I’ll say it again: once a Frenchman has kissed a girl, sex is soon to follow – that’s what he thinks anyway.
Does this make them horny dogs? I’d say if a Frenchman is hanging out with a few different women and trying to have sex with as many as possible then yep, you could probably call him a horny dog. Because he’s pretty much only thinking about how soon he can get a girl into bed, and to hell with getting to know her and finding out if they’re a good match.
On the other hand, there’s decent Frenchmen who do want to get to know a girl but want to have sex first. See, for Frenchmen having sex early on is cultural. It doesn’t make him a horny dog. It just means that’s the way he sees things. So basically he’ll want sex on say the second or third date but will keep on texting you and wanting to see you. As opposed to a horny dog who may disappear on you after sex.
But the question is… how to differentiate between a horny dog and a decent Frenchman?
It’s a tough one especially when you can’t resist your Frenchman whispering sweet nothings in your ear and want to have sex sooner rather than later. It’s a toss up basically. You could have sex and never hear from him again. Or you could have sex and he’ll text you the next day. There’s no way of knowing ahead of time because if you’ve only hung out a few times, there won’t have been that many signs for you to read.
Now there are two ways at looking at this dilemma. You can just chill and roll with it and see what happens after sex. If he texts, bonus! If he doesn’t, oh well. But if you’re not particularly chill and tend to feel like crap when a guy does a runner after sex, give yourself some time. As in instead of having sex sooner rather than later, have sex later rather than sooner. That way you get to find out if he’s a horny dog or a decent guy.
Easy right. But what if he’s pushing you for sex? What if he keeps talking about his need for sex? What if he thinks you’re crazy for wanting to wait? Things can become tricky…
My take is if your Frenchman is talking about and pressuring you for sex non-stop at the expense of any other kind of conversation, dump his ass.
However, if your Frenchman is trying to be understanding but just doesn’t get it, you need to give him an explanation and then be consistent. For example, say something along the lines of: I’d like to give us time to get to know each other before we get physical.
That doesn’t mean that you’re cutting him off completely, it just means you want to hold off on sex for a few weeks. But careful, you need to stick to your guns so he knows that you mean it.
He may get tired of waiting and disappear. In which case, he’s probably a horny dog. Or he may still be there 10 dates down the road. In which case, he’s probably a decent guy.
So which is it to be?