A few weeks ago, one of my readers posted a comment asking what it was like to be in a relationship with a Frenchman. Let me go into detail on that regarding balance, everyday life, commitment, plans for the future, how much time we spend together, etc.
My Frenchman and I have been in a fun, kind, loving relationship for 1 year and 4 months. I know it’s not masses of time but I think it’s a good enough amount of time to be used as a sort of example for the purposes of this blog. So, here goes.
We live together so we obviously spend most of our time together. That said, we do do things separately like drinks with friends, going for a jog, running errands, regular stuff. But I’d say we spend the majority of our free time together. On that front, we are on the same page. We spend time together because we want to, because we’re wired that way, because we like each other’s company and because it’s just natural. There’s no forcing, no whining, it just happens that way, which makes the both of us very, very happy.
In terms of everyday life, my Frenchman makes things easy. Personality-wise, he’s even-tempered, always in a good mood and often goofy. Basically, he balances me out, or brings out the best in me. I truly believe that some matches are totally off, they just can’t be forced, while others fall into place the way they should.
As for commitment, it was something we talked about fairly early in our relationship. We’re both not only committed to each other but being there for each other. More important than the words being said, signs of commitment are beautiful. I went through some health issues a few months ago and my Frenchman was there for me so much it brings tears to my eyes as I type this.
And lastly, plans for the future are part of our relationship. There’s no begging for him to take days off, there’s no convincing him to do anything. On the contrary, he wants to go on vacation, he wants to make plans like buying a house, having a family, etc. It feels like a natural progression to our relationship. A healthy relationship that isn’t standing still in time but moving forward and gaining momentum.
All in all, I would say that a successful relationship with a (French)man is about being a good match, being on the same wavelength, wanting similar things out of life, operating at similar rhythms. Now, that doesn’t mean that you have to be identical. On the contrary, as people say, opposites can attract. It more means that you fit. It’s that simple. Of course, it would be wonderful if you had just a handful of jigsaw pieces to choose from before you got to the right match. But in the real world, it’s more about trial and error and rifling through a 1000-piece puzzle :)) Sometimes the right guy comes along much sooner. For others, it’s later. But it’s well worth the wait.