In my analytics, this search comes up time and time again: Frenchmen and sex on first dates.
Okay, I’ll go through this one more time for new readers. If you’re on a first date with a Frenchman, his goal may well be to have sex with you. On the first date. Let’s say because he likes you and wants to express this physically and… well, all right, because he’s horny.
However, you don’t have to have sex with him. Just because he bought you a nice dinner and whispered poetry in your ear, doesn’t mean you have to take things to the bedroom.
Oh really? Well, yes. He may make you swoon but you can wait a little. To build anticipation and hook him. But also to protect your heart.
If you want to throw caution to the wind, sure go ahead and sleep with the guy. But he may not call you afterwards. This could be because:
a) he wasn’t that interested, he just wanted sex
b) he’s not after a relationship
c) the sex wasn’t good
d) you didn’t send the right message by sleeping with him on the first date (this last one is a mind boggler, I know)
Now, if you can take the possibility of rejection, I would say go for it if you’re just as horny as him. But if you’re a wee bit sensitive and you’re looking for a relationship, then take the slow train to sex. Hey, that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the ride there…