Last year, I got a comment from Stella about her and her Frenchman. The gist of it was that a Frenchman had been calling her to hang out but was yet to make a move on her and kiss her. She wanted to know what was holding him back and if it was okay for her to make the first move and kiss him.
First off, Frenchmen like to hang out. Their preferred method of finding a mate is hanging out with a group of friends and eventually pairing off with a girl. This could take months as it could take a few friendly get togethers that turn into a kiss.
In Stella’s case, they’d hung out a few times, all instigated by him, but still no kiss. Why? Because for the moment, he was just hanging out as friends and still trying to figure out if he wanted anything more. While he was figuring it out, he would continue calling Stella to hang out. Once he figured it out, he’d either kiss her and catapult them into instant relationship territory, or he’d decide not to kiss her and likely disappear.
Now, while all this figuring out was going on, I hope Stella didn’t end up kissing him. Frenchmen are traditionalists that like to be the one to kiss first. Also, him kissing her would give Stella the reassurance that he’d made the decision. Rather than her handing herself over on a platter and him just going sure why not.
Still not convinced? Still think Stella should have thrown caution to the wind and just kissed him already? Thing is, if she did, she may have found herself heading for a breakup a few weeks down the road once he met someone else. Reasons could be because a) he was going to kiss her but then felt like his power was ripped away from him or b) he wasn’t going to kiss her but went along with it for the sex.
So you see, patience really is the better deal.