Let me share this conversation I overheard last night between a Frenchman and his date. The girl in question was a student from Mexico. She was evidently on a first date with the guy. My Frenchman and I were happily enjoying our bobun at the table next to them. But when I heard some of the gems the dude was coming out with I couldn’t help myself from eavesdropping. For the sake of research, of course. Funnily enough, I caught my Frenchman smirking and we shared a look of “What on earth.”
Here are some highlights of what the guy said:
- Wow, I’m muscly, I just saw my muscles in the mirror.
- I have a really big apartment and no roomates. I earn good money so I can afford it.
- I also have a car.
The conversation basically evolved around the Frenchman trying too hard to sell himself. The girl didn’t appear that interested. Mainly because she had her cellphone on the table the entire time and kept checking her text messages.
Eventually she must have got bored because she said:
- Do you have any friends?
As in, do you have any friends that I could date instead of you?
The strange thing is at the end of the date, instead of just parting ways, the girl asked him when he was free again.
Now, those who’ve been following this blog for a while will know that THIS IS WHAT NOT TO DO!
First of all, she should have waited for him to ask HER out again. And second, if she wasn’t that into him, why was she so bothered about setting up a second date? To keep him on the back burner, to just have someone, anyone?
Whatever it was, her asking him out totally backfired on her. After selling himself all evening, he cooled things down a little. Maybe because he was put off by her eagerness:
- I have to work this weekend, but I’ll try and find time to see you, don’t worry.
When we break this down we have 2 people saying and doing the opposite of what they really mean:
- She was acting like she wanted a 2nd date when really she wasn’t that interested.
- He was taking it down a notch when really he was totally interested.
Go figure… The psychology behind dating can be tough to wrap your head around!
Bises,
Datea x
2 Comments
First is I like your blogs 🙂
I’m on this situation right now. I’m Indonesian and I dated an French Expat 2 weeks ago.
Well, the difference is I payed my attention when I was with him. I’m not busy with my cell phone while talked to him. But, why after that dinner he turned cold and not text me like he used to be before.
Yes, he asked me out (but I was the only one to text him first), but timing is not good. And he said he busy and busy and busy. I believe that. I do believe that.
So the question is:
Are there any tips to make him act like before? Or should I start conversation or something?Or what should I do?
Hello BST and welcome to my blog!
It sounds like your Frenchman was more into you when it was about the chase. And then once you had dinner with him he ran out of motivation. I’m sorry because that really hurts. If you’re the one sending texts first and he’s saying he’s too busy, it doesn’t look good I’m afraid. If I were you I’d apply the mirror technique to see what happens. Type “mirror technique” into the Search bar and you’ll find out more about that. Basically it’s a good way to find out how much a guy is into you. Have a look and keep me posted.
Bises,
Datea x