Let me share this conversation I overheard last night between a Frenchman and his date. The girl in question was a student from Mexico. She was evidently on a first date with the guy. My Frenchman and I were happily enjoying our bobun at the table next to them. But when I heard some of the gems the dude was coming out with I couldn’t help myself from eavesdropping. For the sake of research, of course. Funnily enough, I caught my Frenchman smirking and we shared a look of “What on earth.”
Here are some highlights of what the guy said:
- Wow, I’m muscly, I just saw my muscles in the mirror.
- I have a really big apartment and no roomates. I earn good money so I can afford it.
- I also have a car.
The conversation basically evolved around the Frenchman trying too hard to sell himself. The girl didn’t appear that interested. Mainly because she had her cellphone on the table the entire time and kept checking her text messages.
Eventually she must have got bored because she said:
- Do you have any friends?
As in, do you have any friends that I could date instead of you?
The strange thing is at the end of the date, instead of just parting ways, the girl asked him when he was free again.
Now, those who’ve been following this blog for a while will know that THIS IS WHAT NOT TO DO!
First of all, she should have waited for him to ask HER out again. And second, if she wasn’t that into him, why was she so bothered about setting up a second date? To keep him on the back burner, to just have someone, anyone?
Whatever it was, her asking him out totally backfired on her. After selling himself all evening, he cooled things down a little. Maybe because he was put off by her eagerness:
- I have to work this weekend, but I’ll try and find time to see you, don’t worry.
When we break this down we have 2 people saying and doing the opposite of what they really mean:
- She was acting like she wanted a 2nd date when really she wasn’t that interested.
- He was taking it down a notch when really he was totally interested.
Go figure… The psychology behind dating can be tough to wrap your head around!