Are you focused on the end goal of finding happiness with a Frenchman? Of being in a place where everything is fabulously dreamy, where there’s no second guessing, no wondering where you stand, no agonizing over if he’s going to call or what he meant in his last text?
Of course, being in such a place is ideal. I mean, who wouldn’t want to be there.
Unfortunately, it’s not that easy, as I’m sure you know. The reason being that you can’t get to that end goal before you focus on the present. And by the present, I mean the journey toward your end goal.
See, many of us are so caught up in getting to the end of the story already that we forget that it’s the present that paves the way there. It’s the present that defines how things work out. It’s the present that sets us up for the next chapters.
So be your awesome self with the guy you’re dating, enjoy what happens when it happens, laugh, have fun, be spontaneous, savour what you’re feeling when you feel it. But also be aware – if a guy isn’t treating you how you deserve now, it’s not going to get better in the future.
When you find your mind drifting off to thoughts about what if and how soon and next year and the year after, try and bring yourself back to the now. An exercise that’s hard to pull off, I know. But if done enough, you’ll find yourself enjoying life a whole lot more. With the right guy, you’ll naturally grow into your end goal. While you’ll kick all those wrong guys to the curb.